Tough Transitions—Moving and Kids
Moving can be tough. The impact that it can have on you can be long and lasting. More than having a personal impact on your life, moving can have a lasting and deep impact on children especially. Whether it’s a change in their standard of living, a change in schools or just a change of environment moving can affect kids more than we think and realize.
Smaller children depend on predictability and security. These concepts are closely related to familiar faces and places. Older children are likely to feel that their social life is impacted when they move. Fitting in is incredibly important at this age for their social and emotional lives. Easing a child or teens moving experience can be incredible for them as kids and later in their lives as adults. There are a number of ways that a parent or guardian can get involved in their children’s comfort in a move. One of the first and most important items to address is to keep routines and home rules the same when you move to your new location. This will allow children to plant their roots faster and feel comfortable quicker as well.
Second item is to make their room comfortable to their standards. Making a child feel secure at home is important, but assuring that their place to ‘get away’ is up to their approval is incredibly important. Another item is assuring that you as a parent are doing all you can to cultivate new friendships with other kids. Doing things like opening your home to new friends and acquaintance and encouraging your children to interact and make plans with new kids are essential for your child’s transition.
Keeping up with old friends is also an essential part of keeping their social life healthy, as it allows them to build long term relationships and to stay connected to their old stomping grounds. When it comes to school, encouraging extracurricular activities is a great way to introduce your child to not only new friends but to new subjects and interests. More than anything that you can do for your child, you can be a constant part of their life and stay up to date with everything going on. This is the key essential element in your relationship with your child.
Following these simple tips will not only foster and cultivate your child’s needs for social interaction and living emotionally secure, but will make sure that you are giving them the chance to live up to their own potential.