It happens. You’re at the gym in your new town, you strike up a conversation with a guy because he’s nice, and you realize that he isn’t looking for friendship (and you’re not looking for a relationship). How can you put that guy in the friend zone without crushing him? Here are some ways to set very clear boundaries.
Step 1: Try and ignore his advances as much as possible. If you see him again, smile and nod, but pop in your headphones to avoid a longer conversation.
Step 2: Bring up the man in your life right now. If you’ve just moved to a new place, you may not have a guy in your life, but you may want a friend. Telling your new guy friend that you are already taken is one way to avoid any awkwardness. If you’re going to use this tactic, make sure to bring up your guy as soon as possible.
Step 3: Turn down any invitations to hang out. If he asks you what you are doing Friday night, simply respond that you have plans.
Step 4: Skip any kind of close embrace, holding hands, or other kind of contact. If you do hang out with the guy you met at the gym for coffee or for lunch, do not get too close to him physically. You can listen to his problems without hugging or touching him.
Step 5: Just be honest. Some guys get really offended when you tell them flat out that you aren’t interested, but you can do this nicely. Just tell him that you’d love to get some new friends, but you are into dating anyone right now. Hopefully, you’ll keep the friend and get rid of any notion of moving the relationship to the next level.
When Moving to a New Town
Whether you’re moving to Fort Collins CO or anywhere else, you’ll need some friends to help you make that transition a smooth one. Some of those friends are bound to be guys, and there’s nothing wrong with having a few guy friends. Realize, though, that sometimes turning down a guy means losing him completely, so that’s a risk that you will take (but a necessary one if you’re just not that into him).
If you are moving to Windsor or another place, one other great way to make it clear that you don’t have feelings for your new guy friend is to invite other friends out whenever you two decide to go somewhere. If your girlfriends are around (or any new friends that you meet), you may even be able to set him up with another girl. It can be hard to let a guy down if he’s really into you, but it’s the best thing to do to avoid leading him on. Otherwise, things could get really awkward!
Working With a Moving Company in Fort Collins
At Exodus Moving and Storage, we want to help you with every aspect of your new life from moving your things to your new home to learning how to make new friends when you get there. If you take a look around our blog, you will see that we have many different articles posted about what to do when you move, and we’re also happy to help in any way that we can.
If you are moving soon, make sure to give us a call. We can provide you with a free quote, and we can also offer you some moving tips. You can also find us on Facebook – we’d love to get to know you socially! Ladies: what’s your trick for putting a guy in the friend zone? Let us know!