Is Moving In Together the Right Step?
Ah, love. It can be an amazing thing, but it might only be so amazing when you’re living apart. Combining worlds and belongings brings a whole different element to any relationship. Living with the one you love might be the best thing that you’ve ever done. On the other hand, it could be the worst and hardest idea that you’ve ever had. So, how do you figure it all out?
Calling all the Pretty People
When we go out on dates (or out in public in general) we tend to look our best. We put on makeup, find the right clothes, the perfect shoes, spray perfume, and do everything we can to look completely and totally appealing to our loved one. But, what about those days when you are just lounging around home? Or, those days when you don’t feel good, so you grab your rattiest sweats, wrap your hair into some kind of top bun, and trudge around with watery eyes carrying a box of tissues? Has your partner seen you on those days? If he’s only seen you when you look amazing, it’s time to open up his eyes.
Before you move in together, invite him over for a night of just relaxing, and make sure not to get all dolled up. Why? Because the person that can’t stand to see you at your worst (or isn’t so affectionate when you aren’t looking your best) is probably not a person you can live with. After all, you don’t look amazing all the time, right? So, let him see you as you really are a few times, and then decide if you want to live together. Otherwise, you’ll spend the first few months in your new place trying to look perfect all the time — and this can be exhausting around the clock!
Get Used to Those Bad Habits
When you visit your partner at his house, you probably see a relatively clean place that’s somewhat hospitable. But, this might not be the person that he really is. He may leave hair in the sink after shaving, might toss his dirty clothes on the floor every day, and may never think to leave an extra roll of toilet paper in the bathroom. If you don’t know about these habits, you’ll be in for a rude awakening. Either find out what his dirty habits are, or learn quickly how to sit back and roll with it. Otherwise, you’ll be fighting in no time when you move in together.
Living together means splitting expenses like utilities and rent. Do you know what is financial situation looks like? How much he can afford? Whether or not he has a steady job? Love can get you pretty far, but you’ll get fed up quickly if he can’t afford to carry his half. At least if you know the current financial situation, you can plan to pick up more of the slack.
Make Sure Your Relationship Is Clear
Sure, moving in may mean that you don’t want to see other people, but he has to be clear on your daily activities too. If you want to hang out with friends three days per week, this has to be understood from the start. If you expect him to be home for dinner each night, make this clear too. Living together may not mean spending every waking minute together, but neither one of you will know whether or not this is the case unless you take the time to talk it over.
Ready to Call Your Movers in Fort Collins?
If you’ve gone over everything listed above and you still want to live together, Exodus is here to help you pack, move, and unpack. We also have storage rental spaces available in both Fort Collins and Denver, just in case you don’t want to let go of everything just yet. As a moving company in Fort Collins, we can provide you with a complete free moving quote, just call us and ask for one.
Your Fort Collins movers can help you move in or out, and even in again if you don’t like where you are when you move out! Living with someone takes a lot of thinking and planning, so make sure to carefully consider every angle before you make that move! What do you think? When is it time to move in together? Leave us a note on Facebook!