It’s never easy to revert back to living with your parents, or moving into your childhood home later in life. Yet, it’s a phenomenon that’s happening regularly. As this LA Times article points out, many middle-aged couples are being forced to move back in with parents due to financial hardships. If you are about to move in with your mom or dad, here are some tips on how to make the transition a smooth one.
1. Help out as much as possible. Paying rent, contributing to grocery bills, and adding some extra money to the household income whenever possible is a good idea. Why? Because this way you will be pulling your weight in the home, and that will make all the difference in the world.
2. Keep space separate. Set up as many boundary rules as possible. Add a lock to your bedroom door, respect the privacy of your parents, and make sure that everything is kept separate – including bank accounts.
3. Try not to turn the home into your home. This time around, you are the guest, not the child. Try not to change things around in your new dwelling to fit your needs. This means leaving appliances alone and not messing with your mom’s garden.
4. Invite friends over, but make sure to let you parents know about these guests. It’s important for you to continue your social life, and it’s also important to let everyone in the house know about any additional people (for the sake of courtesy).
5. Try not to argue. This one will be tough because there will be a lot of things you don’t agree with your parents about. Whenever there is a disagreement, try to sit down and talk it out.
6. Consider counseling. Sometimes, meeting with a counselor trained in these types of situations can be the best course of action. These professionals can help you devise a living situation plan, create a better environment for everyone, and provide the right boundaries and rules.
7. Do your part where housework is concerned. When you were a kid, you may have spent a lot of time tossing your clothes into the laundry pile and waiting for your mom to wash them. Times have changed. Now, it’s your job to take care of your messes, clean your own laundry, and volunteer to help out with chores on a regular basis.
8. Be honest. Speak with your parents about any situation that involves them. Try to get them to understand your situation, and try to ask for their understanding. Sometimes, sitting down and talking with people is the best way to make things work.
9. Don’t try to force your parents into doing something that you would like them to do. If your mom doesn’t get a lot of exercise, try not to force her into joining your aerobics class. Let things move at a natural pace, go about your business, and leave your parents to enjoy their retired lives.
10. Keep in mind that multi-generational homes aren’t unusual! Throughout Europe, children, grandkids, and grandparents often live together. In North America, this arrangement is less common, but it’s really nothing to feel ashamed about. In fact, it will help your parents out if you can contribute to a mortgage bill or grocery bill. Just keep the above tips in mind when you move, and everything should work out okay.
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Moving in with your parents can provide you with a chance to bond, to reconnect, and to enjoy many amazing memories. Just make sure that you pay attention to the details listed above!